Teaching our children to appreciate the texture of their hair is ongoing, it should be part of our daily activities. I can’t imagine the esteem I would have had when I was younger if I knew that my hair was good, even if it wasn’t bone straight and hanging down with cute little baubles and dillies on the ends. I never had that kind of hair and I often dreamed of having someone else’s luscious tendrils of silkened joy atop my own head. All I knew was that whatever it was on top of my head, there HAD to be something better.
I was teased by outsiders AND i was teased by family too. My hair was uneven and my edges were thin, my head was huge and the hair on top barely covered it all. The majority of my hair was thick, but I bypassed baby hairs that could neatly be brushed down in place, I just had thick hair in the middle and scalp around the perimeter with a few tufts of hair here and there.
Because my Mother didn’t know what to do, I was introduced to chemicals at an early age, Relaxers and Jheri curls were switched back and forth. One month I had straight hair, then I’d have a short afro the next. Then I would have shiny curls until the activator was out and water did NOT do the trick! If she just would have known the right way to detangle my hair, there may have been happier hair days for the both of us back then.
The key to Good Hair for children, is detangling!
A little water and some moisturizing cream or oil would have taken my hair to a whole new level! Instead, I battled with dry, fragile hair, that would grow but rarely saw pleasant days. I know there are many Moms out there now who are embattled by the tangles and tufts they pray would change one day of they close their eyes and open them quickly. But the uneasiness natural hair causes for many has a simple remedy. Water and a wide toothed comb!
Here are some simple steps to follow when detangling your child’s hair:
Now you have manageable sections of hair. The next step depends on whether or not you are going to style the hair now or later. If later, double strand twist the sections of hair and secure with an elastic band at the ends. This stretches the curls a bit and preserves moisture in the hair. If you are planning on styling the hair, then go section by section until the desired style is created.
Some styles that would last a week or two are box braids and double strand twists. Each of those styles are a base for a twist out, braid out, or even pony sections with dillies or baubles on the ends.
Once you learn to take the time to detangle your child’s hair, your opinion of it may change. It is a lot less work than trying to repair chemically damaged hair and damaged esteem that comes along with it.
It may take some time and a little trial and error to find the right products and methods to manage your child’s hair. But the key is gently removing the tangles, making the experience more pleasant and acceptable.
Build your child’s esteem today 🙂